Category: Dating and Relationships
Ok sowe've figured out everyones general reaction to being held. So now my question is how do you Feel about Public Displays of Affection? I think that hugging and kissing someone in public is fine, but anything beyond that should be kept behind closed doors. I also thin that when I'm being held or kissed or simply holding someones hand in public it shows the world taht I am tthere special girl.
I don't mind we have often kissed ect in public, not full on sex, but the idea does appeal..Lablover I agree there is nothing better than your SO being affectionate, it challenges those who would rather not contemplate even touching their spouse, and if the public don't approve they don't need to watch.
I thin it depends, I think you should respect the audience, so it depends on the time and place. E.g. if you are at a party or night club I think being affectionate, kissing etc is ok, that's what people are used to seeing and sort of expect, at a big conference e.g. I think you should be more aware of standards and such, I think holding hands is always acceptible and I know I'm too touchy feely to leave my partner alone, I wouldn't want to think of myself as a person who can go more than 10 minutes without touching her somehow, just letting her know I'm thinking about her, but I also think you really need to be a bit aware of where you are and how appropriate your actions are, especialy when you are blind because I thik, whether we like it or not, the sighted public takes our actions as indicative of all blind people and if we are totally out of touch with our environment I think it's a negative thing and reflects negatively on the entire blind community. I know there are people on this site who just hate the idea that we present blind people just because we are blind and I will agree that it's a bit stupid and it shouldn't be that way but it is and I think we need to be aware of that in our dealings with sighted people.
cheers
-B
I don't think there's anything wrong with kissing and hugging in public. Anything else in public is sort of disturbing. But when gay or lezbians kiss and hug in public, they for some strange reason think it's ok to do more in public and that's just not rite. It sort of freaks me out when they make out in public. I love giving people hugs. In public or not in public. In public like lablover, I think it shows people that that person I'm hugging is a special person.
Wildebrew, you've made some excellent remarks here. I'm in full accord here. Great thoughts on the matter. I'm a rather affectionate person and if the atmosphere is right, I'd go for the pda, however, I do believe it is extremely important to be aware of one's surroundings and the circumstances etc. Like it or not, we as blind individuals do reflect on the community as a whole.
Now lost girl, I'm not sure where you are getting your information, but it seems you might be making a blanket statement about gays and lesbians. What has led you to the belief that they have to take it further than kissing in public?
exactly, its not nice to stariotype. i'm a lesbian, and i'd follow the same rules straight couples should.
I don't think there is anything wrong with holding hands in public or giving someone a quick hug when saying hello or goodbye or even in walking with your arm around each others waists. But I don't like to see people making out in public.
Because you feel the need for gay pride perades and such, I don't care if your a lesbian, but don't be all proud of it, you don't see me running around proclaiming my straightness everywhere I go, not all homosexuals do this, but some do, example comander laforge who's just a flaiming gay that gets on my nerves. People like Electra don't bother me at all though, since they don't make the fact that they arn't straight part of there personality that everyone has to know.
i guess my story about a girl in a swimming pool in Ibiza would reflect badly on the blind comunity then! o accept that we didn't get caught! hehe.
Ice Queen some of them do as they take it their right to shove their sexuality down the throats of the straight population..I'm bisexual and yes I have kissed a bloke in public but he was an exhibitionist...I do however hold back from all out "hey look everyone I'm bi look at me I'm kissing a guy!!" crap because frankly it's just too feckin dangerous..These exhibitionists are putting themselves and the rest of us in very real danger of being hammered.
hehe harp, no ;) Ibiza and swimming pools expect this sort of thing <grin>
actually i was just thinking, perhaps my post about the girl in the swimming pool shouldn't have been posted on this board anyway. casting my mind back i'm not so sure that that was a public display of affection. from memory it was more like a pretty damp aperture!
I didn't say *all* homosexuals do that. My best friend is bisexual. She's like my friggin sister. Unlike alot of gay people *goblin* she doesn't talk about being gay all the time. Gay people sometimes just tend to have a little too much pride these days.
No. Get a room.
if people don't wanna see it, they shouldn't look, hehehe. No, I don't go for sex in doorways or anything like that, that's just madness, but generally speaking, what's the issue?
I generally agree, though having said that, i won't deny feeling somewhat uncomfortable when i see two people, on a bus, for example, being demonstrative for what seems like an eternity. I've witnessed this passionate kissing to go on for the entirety of my 20 minute bus ride. eek.
Lol yep I have been on trains first thing in the morning and been able to hear a couple pash the entire time! nope! I reckon maybe a little peck and hug is fine but personally I don't agree that it should go any further in public. Yes, OK so holding hands is a sure sign that a couple is together. if you want the world to see, I think that's lovely but leave it at that. the rest, there are doors for! :)
20 minutes fair play to them.smile and what the hell is wrong with pride hmm? Its far better than having to hide for fear of being hooked up to a machine in ICU..
there goes gobby again, O,T,T,
he's right though, i for one could say the same for some straight people i know. there are a few girls i know that say things like, "i'm straight and that's the best way to be". i don't bash them for thinking that, so why should they bash us for having pride in who we are?
a hug or quick kiss is ok. I hold hands with my boyfriend. But I think it is very innappropriate to be making out in public... yuck
I don't really care, partly because holding things back can make people think your are strange.
When your drunk let it all hang out, and I mean all!
I agree with Jared. No, actually, it's kind of interesting but well... I think a hug and kiss is fine, and so is maybe the occasional makeout. But for me, there is just something about the fact of doing more than that and possibly getting caught by doing it, it just kind of turns me on in a way. Not that you needed to know that but oh well. Anyway, if you are normal then it might be a little too much, but if not, and you are actually into the exhibitionism kind of like I am in a way, then you might enjoy it...
Lol well they do that anyway BG. we don't have a choice Lol
BD these vaccuous barbie dolls feel threatened by our sheer cheek, and the fact that we have the audacity, to be who we are Out and Proud! they would kill for our self esteem.Smile
true dat, alex.
I think that an occasional hug or kiss is ok, but anything beyond that is to much for me, unless you're feeling daring.
I have no problem whatsoever with public displays of affection! I think they are a wonderful thing, and to be honest, if you're in love and with your partner, then something is wrong if you feel like you can't kiss them or hold their hand or hug them if you feel like it. And why wouldn't you feel like it? I don't understand :S. In saying that, I think the lostgurl's comment about gays and lesbians going in for more public displays of affection is completely mis-guided! Everywhere you look these days there are straight couples kissing and holding hands etc, and to be honest, yeah, you do see gay couples doing it too, but I think the straight public displays of affection are far more common! Maybe you just notice gay couples more because you have more of an issue with it? In saying that, I'm a lesbian and I'm very proud of it! That said, I don't go around feeling the need to proclaim to all and sundry that I am gay, but I do have a very wonderful girlfriend and I am incredibly proud to be with her, so my sexuality generally comes out when I'm asked if I have a boyfriend or who I live with etc. I'm a very affectionate person, and I want to show my girlfriend and the whole world how much I love her, and how proud I am to be with her. So what is wrong with kissing, cuddling or holding hands in public? Should I refrain just because I don't meet the stereotypical ideal that society sets? To hell with that! I'm not straight, but I am 'supposed' to feel comfortable with straight couples making public displays of affection because society says so. So why is there such an issue with gay couples? It's never particularly comfortable if you come across any couple with their tongues down each others throats, but we just turn our heads and get on with our own life! Live and let live is what I say, and if I want to walk down the street hand in heand with my girlfriend, or if I want to lean over and kiss her on the lips in a pub, then I will! And I expect the same courtesy as everyone else gets, I'm not rubbing it in anyone's face that I'm a lesbian, I'm just showing my girlfriend that I love her and I don't care who knows!
lucy, you couldn't've said it better, that's exactly how i feel. if straight couples are allowed to be affectionant, we should be able to as well!
That's right, Chelsea.
well this is ineresting, me and some friends were having this debate yesterday while walking back to the dorms, as my friends room mate and his girlfriend who ae all very close well the room mate and friend are going out, and are very very public about it, constantly hugging cuddeling, kissing etc. great people but anoys him, as he has to be in the room with them, not to mention he had feelings for her.
I hate when a couple is too public, i dont think you have to hide you'r with someone, but you dont even have to show it every second of your life! i think there should be a sort of middle way.
I don't mind minor things such as hugging kissing holding hands and snuggling but beyond the kissing, that might be more advisable to be kept private
I hug my boyfriend in the halls and hold hands with him. We sometimes kiss if we are alone in a classroom or if no one's looking. We also hold hands or put arms around each other sometimes when we're eating lunch. Some of the administration are trying to tell us not to do it, but I don't care! I mean, yeah it may not be good in certain venues. But still...
Just my thoughts.
Macy
There was a lot of that in the school hallways last year and the year before that And I don't care. If people want to show there affections for each other then let them. But keep it to a limit if you can!